Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto
individual and couples counselling
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I am Lisa Kelly, a Registered Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto serving LGBT and straight clients from Riverdale, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, St. Lawrence Market, Distillery, Rosedale, Leslieville, central Toronto and the GTA.
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Your searches for Toronto counselling and therapy services may have yielded long lists of the GTA's leading therapists. You might now be suffering from a bit of choice paralysis. Know that you took a big step and are now closer to support and relief.
People seek therapy for a variety of reasons. You could be looking for a safe haven from the overwhelming stresses of life - a place where you can take time to reflect and be the focus of attention. You might want insight into your needs, feelings, thoughts and reactions or to work on self-esteem, important relationships and ways to communicate more effectively. Or it could be that you want to process difficult experiences and find ways to cope as you navigate a life transition. There are countless possibilities.
Regardless of your hopes for therapy, you might feel both anxious and excited about getting started. That's completely understandable. I aim to be accepting, emotionally present and to work at a pace that is comfortable for you. Collaborating with you, while you share your concerns, I offer my heartfelt attention and respectful challenge.
Being with people as they experience some of the most profound moments in their lives is a true privilege. I have been humbled to see that as they heal and grow, they make the world a better place.
I work with people who are dealing with an array of emotional, personal and relational issues. My clients are busy professionals like you - lawyers, realtors, financial advisors, teachers, physicians, first responders, actors, advertising executives, producers, directors, athletes, business owners, digital media experts, architects, surgeons, dentists, professors, project managers, artists, designers, physiotherapists, accountants, art dealers, public service employees etc.
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Therapy is a process-oriented investment in personal growth. Develop your ability to take risks, communicate effectively, engage people, pursue your dreams and live a fulfilling life. Weekly or bi-weekly psychotherapy sessions are recommended for creating lasting change in your self-esteem, relationships and communication skills.
Relationship therapy with Toronto psychotherapist
Could the quality of our relationships - with family, friends, colleagues and partners - influence our physical health, degree of self-actualization and whether we thrive in life? Could our emotional well-being depend on having satisfying relationships with others? Do small moments and our feelings about them define the quality of our lives? I encourage individuals and couples to ponder these questions.
Now more than ever in history we turn to our romantic partners for emotional support. Not only do we need to know that we really matter but that they will be there when we need them most. While we do our best to communicate and connect our relationships remain fraught with challenges. No relationship is trouble-free. Issues - which arise intra-personally, inter-personally and externally - wreak havoc on our interactions with loved ones. Beliefs about ourselves and others are very much alive in our relational dynamics. Great relating comes down to how we deal with our inevitable differences. Unless we are able to use particular relational and communication skills, we will get caught in escalating cycles of blaming and distancing.
You ask yourself what, if any, your part is in all the strife. You wonder if relationship issues indicate incompatibility. You don't know whether to break up or stay. Or what if you have been rejected? Either way, you consider the impact on your self-esteem and future. If you are ruminating about your relationship, I encourage you to get in touch with me.
Relationship therapist in downtown Toronto
I hope to understand how you have been impacted by your unique relational experiences with family, friends, colleagues, partners, society, community and culture. In collaboration with you, I hope to create a therapeutic relationship that you will find supportive, transforming and energizing. I am passionate about offering you a space in which to express your feelings, be heard, gain insights, explore possibilities, tap into strengths, hone communication skills, catalyze change and develop valuable relational skills with which to make the most of your relationships and life.
Recognizing your individuality or your unique dynamic as a couple, I will tailor my knowledge to you. Being emotionally present to your feelings, needs and concerns as they arise, I aim to help you to gain insight, communicate genuinely and engage deeply.
While therapy is less stigmatized than it used to be, you might feel a sense of shame about the idea of seeking help - shame that you haven't quite managed to solve your relationship issues on your own or shame that you may not have made the best choices for yourself. Maybe you would like to learn how to reach out and respond to others. Have past experiences or recent events overwhelmed your ability to cope? Know that we all get stuck at times and stand to benefit from working with a relationship therapist.
Life purpose or life transition therapy
You may be going through a life transition. Your quest might be to forge a sense of identity, purpose or belonging - to find your place in the world. Perhaps you would like to take stock of your life to date and be steadily supported in your efforts to create a fulfilling future. A person's greatest challenge is often to live an enriched and meaningful life despite his or her beginnings and current circumstances. What if you were to care for yourself in ways you have cared for others? What if you were to prioritize your own needs, interests, passions and talents just a little more?
If we don't envision and act on our hopes for a brighter future, we end up settling for a life that happens to us - a life of potential regrets. Whether we realize it or not, some regrets stem from our daily habits - from choices we make each day. (Do you watch hours of TV instead of pursuing a longstanding interest?) Consider the extent to which your routines help you to actualize your potential. What if each moment is an opportunity that can be used to shape the rest of your life?
Life transitions or mid-life crises include:
The above are just a few of numerous possible life changes. Many of my clients have grappled with moving from place to place or with leaving a partner or employer. Some lose family and friends and struggle to find ways to move on. The deep and often painful feelings that emerge in response to big change understandably prompt self-reflection and concerns about the unknown ahead. If you are grappling with feelings of guilt, grief or inadequacy you might benefit from working with a psychotherapist.
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I aim to provide clients with a safe space in which to connect with the feelings and needs triggered by big shifts in their lives. I begin with taking a thorough history. From there, I help clients explore answers to their own important questions as well as to discover which choices, adjustments and steps might lead to improvements in quality of life.
If your life transition evokes questions about your life purpose, I can help you to clarify your core values, identify your unique talents, discern your true desires, craft a personal mission statement, turn dreams into plans and actualize your vision for the future.
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Self-esteem and anxiety therapy
If you've been experiencing anxiety or low self-esteem, I imagine you would like to be heard, understood and validated - all in a confidential and non-judgmental atmosphere. Maybe you are looking for a fresh perspective or for someone who will be responsive to your concerns in ways friends and family haven't been. Possibly you have no one else to talk to and have struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, saying "no," setting boundaries, being assertive or relentlessly comparing yourself to others.
Hoping to build self-confidence?
For most of us, self-esteem fluctuates through time, yet may have a frustrating tendency to wane. What is self-esteem? Some might define it as our own evaluation of self-worth. How do you measure your worth? Are you more concerned about other peoples' opinions than your own? Do you relentlessly compare yourself to others? Have you internalized someone else's critical voice? Are you forever achieving yet still feeling like a failure? Is your life a response to that criticism more so than it is an expression of your true self? Are you confused about who you really are? About how you really feel?
If you grew up in surroundings where your feelings, needs and perspectives were not valued, you may have understandably developed low self-esteem. You may have taken messages from the ways others treated you that now negatively influence your core beliefs, self-talk and ways of interacting.
How you feel about yourself - whether you respect yourself - influences the quality of your life. Your capacity to make important, timely decisions about a partner or career can be affected by your confidence. Consider this: The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Therefore, the most important challenge you face may be to develop positive self-regard.
If we do not value ourselves, we will not be assertive, make requests, take action on our own behalf or even follow our dreams. Instead we will defer to those we want to please or impress. People suffering from low self-esteem may be in jobs that reflect and reinforce their low self-worth. A person with low self-esteem might also experience difficulty initiating and deepening relationships. Very often, a negative self-image is soothed through alcohol, drugs, over-work, emotional eating, shopping, plastic surgery etc.
So here's the crux of it: Self-esteem can be intrinsic or extrinsic. If you were loved unconditionally while growing up, you likely feel satisfied with yourself as you are today - which means you have intrinsic self-worth. You love yourself in spite of of the ways others treat you and in spite of your so-called imperfections and failures. Unlike someone with extrinsically-based self-esteem, you do not need the approval or praise of authority figures or of society in order to feel good about yourself. You have not bought into the myth that you are of value only in so far as you produce and consume. You do not rely on externally defined indicators - such as high income, educational credentials, a model's body or skin tone etc. to feel good about yourself.
I help clients to strengthen their intrinsic self-worth. I do this relationally rather than by putting them through self-esteem boot camp. You may have jumped through hoops for most of your life believing that achievements breed self-worth. But you are discovering that the confidence that comes with success is often short-lived. Right?
Wondering where you went wrong? Are you sick of feeling alone, anxious or inadequate? Would you like to work on feeling more at ease with and expressive of who you are? If so, please get in touch with me. I would love to work with you. Now might finally be the time to make space for you - to discover your value as a human being rather than as a human doing.
Feeling isolated or lonely? Hoping a Toronto psychotherapist can help?
Loneliness is sometimes defined as the gap between a person's actual and desired social relationships. Did you know that loneliness is on the rise globally and that close to one third of Canadians live alone? Scientific studies have revealed that feeling lonely and/or being isolated can negatively affect mental and physical health - reducing quality of life and lifespan. We are wired for connection and tend to need both social and intimate connections.
Common reasons for loneliness and therapy:
While feelings of loneliness often arise situationally we tend to blame our lonely feelings on our imagined character flaws. For example, we might say to ourselves, "The reason I am alone is that I am boring, unintelligent, unattractive."
Even in the best of circumstances connecting can be difficult. Most of us want to be known yet at the same time fear being known. Generally we worry that in opening up we will be either a burden or be judged. Sharing vulnerable feelings can be particularly challenging for anyone who has been bullied, abused, neglected, controlled, rejected, abandoned, stereotyped or encouraged to be strong, silent, self-sufficient and of service. If we have not inherited a big loving family, we may have to cultivate social connections. And this may not be so easy to do.
Consider the number of people you can confide in and count on. Do you have meaningful exchanges with others? Feelings of closeness develop when interactions involve reciprocity - give and take. We generally benefit from scheduled quality time with people who hear, understand and value us. Quality time can be face-to-face, emotionally attuned, one-on-one time or it can be side-by-side time doing a shared activity. If creating intimate or social connections is challenging for you, I encourage you to contact me.
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Therapy and counselling fee for individuals:
It's usually best to experience Cabbagetown psychotherapy sessions in person. However, counselling is also available by phone when individual clients are unable to attend therapy sessions face-to-face.
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Since everyone changes in their own unique way and at their own pace, a therapist or counsellor will tailor their approach to each client's needs. While offering my heartfelt attention, I aim to facilitate your journey toward a more fulfilling life. In time, with the insights and the skills you gain, you will likely feel more at ease and be better equipped to handle life - acting on your own behalf and relating to others more effectively. I welcome you to get in touch and experience the benefits of psychotherapy, relationship therapy and counselling.
psychotherapy and counselling for relationship issues
Toronto relationship issues therapist and counsellor
Chatelaine and Canadian Living magazines as well as the Canadian Tamil Youth Leadership Program have interviewed me about relationship issues. More recently, I was approached by the BBC and the Toronto Star about my work with married couples.
Relationships - whether with romantic partners, friends, family, co-workers, or pets - are fundamental to our lives. They provide us with companionship, support, self-esteem and a sense of belonging. They significantly influence who we are, the decisions we make, how we think, feel and act. Without a doubt, relationships are the most important aspect of our lives.
Most of us are wired to connect - to feel seen, heard, understood, known, valued and loved. When relationship problems - essentially unmet needs - inevitably arise, we feel disconnected and suffer. We wonder how to re-connect, soothe our suffering, move forward. These are critical questions.
Relationship skills were not taught anywhere and we subscribe to the myth that we can figure everything out as we go along. We don’t think twice about getting professional training to drive a car or about investing in a good education towards establishing a career. So why do we think twice about consulting a relationship expert about improving our work, family, friend and romantic relationships?
Communication for relationships
Most of us need guidance, support and practice to communicate effectively. Interpersonal and communication skills not only help to resolve relationship issues, but to preempt them. They help us to clearly express our feelings, needs and wishes and to inquire about those of others.
Would you like to develop your ability to express feelings, communicate assertively, make requests, engage others, resolve conflict, negotiate and respond calmly? A relationship counsellor or therapist can provide invaluable training and support.
In addition to helping with communication skills, relationship therapists can help you to develop the self-awareness and courage needed to address relationship issues, deepen emotional intimacy, rekindle passion and improve the quality of your connections.
Relationships - especially with significant others - often mirror our relationship to ourselves. For example, if you tend be dismissive of your feelings (as perhaps a parent was), you may notice in your relationship history a pattern of involvement with partners who disregard or minimize your feelings. Or if you are self-scrutinizing, it may be you find yourself with a partner who criticizes you.
Allow a relationship therapist to support you in exploring the ways in which you avoid your true self and other people. It would be my pleasure to help you develop emotional presence and to discover effective means of connecting.
5 signs of healthy love relationships:
You and your partner:
Relationships and relationship issues
Too often we find ourselves fairly far into a relationship before realizing we have not been clear - with ourselves or our partner - about what we want and need. Only when we feel dissatisfied do our most important desires become apparent. Most of us then complain, try to change the person we are with (to a great degree), seethe silently or get our needs met on the sly. Few of us know how to make small specific requests. Even fewer of us know when to give up and move on. Most of us see the red flags and stick around. This is often because at least one critical need is being met now and again.
Most partners can benefit from developing their relational and communication skills. If you are interested in cultivating healthier relationships, I welcome you to contact me.
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Are you looking for a psychotherapist in downtown Toronto to help with your relationship?
If you are stressed about issues with a current or past partner, you may be searching for fresh perspectives and effective tools. You may be wondering how to better communicate, relate and connect. Or simply to make sense of what's been going on.
Are you going around in circles, repeatedly disagreeing about the same issues? Are your fears - of rejection, abandonment, dependency, neglect, inadequacy, failure, conflict, of hurting your partner's feelings, or of being suffocated, used or controlled - affecting the quality of your connection/s?
Professional and caring support is a step away: Please email me. I encourage you to book a relationship counselling session - for you and your partner, or for you on your own. It's possible to work through interpersonal issues and make adjustments that lead to positive, sustained change. Whether you would like to become closer to your partner, process current issues, reflect on past challenges or find ways to move forward, I would be happy to help.
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Psychotherapy is a process of personal growth leading to potential change in self-esteem, career and relationships.
A client and mental health expert meet regularly with the goal of exploring and understanding the client's inner and outer worlds - such as feelings, needs, experiences, challenges, hopes, experiences and relationships. A psychotherapist or therapist will not give advice so much as help you explore options and resolve inner conflict so that you can arrive at your own insights and decisions. Because psychotherapists and counsellors have training in a wide variety of areas, they take unique approaches to their work with clients. The ultimate aim though is to assist you in living with more purpose, authenticity, effectiveness, creativity and spontaneity. Your self-awareness, health and well-being are of interest in all approaches to psychotherapy and counselling.
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Psychological research indicates that the best predictor of successful therapy outcomes is the quality of the client-therapist relationship. Consider finding a therapist you feel comfortable with. Decide which qualities the best psychotherapist for you might have. For example - sincere, empathetic, warm, non-judgmental, thought-provoking, insightful, perceptive, encouraging etc. Also, determine your wishes for therapy: Are you hoping to explore particular issues? Get tough experiences off your chest? Be carefully listened to? Receive a sincere response? Get fresh perspectives? Develop self-awareness? Gain emotional support? Develop new skills? Establish steps forward? Finding the right therapist for you - someone who has the experience you are looking for and who seems genuinely motivated to help - may not be easy, but will likely be worth the effort.
I believe that the client's focus and commitment largely determines whether s/he views therapy as a success. If a person regularly attends sessions over a period of months, clearly states their needs to the therapist, fully engages in the process and apply new concepts to situations outside of therapy, they may report that therapy was beneficial.
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Registered Psychotherapist and Toronto Relationship Therapist offering psychotherapy in downtown Toronto, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, Riverdale, Leslieville, St. Lawrence Market, the Distillery, Rosedale, the GTA.
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